They are numbers of reasons why a believer backslides. Some they miss their old ways. Some couldn’t handle the pressure of being set apart from the crowd. Of being make fun of, ridiculed and the isolation not only from your peers but from you friends, and worst of them all from your own family.
The most common of it all is the promise that everything will be better, once you become a believer in Christ. People get disillusioned, then discouraged and eventually abandon their faith. The truth is your problems will be magnified ten to twenty times. You’ll feel persecuted from every side. The things that you didn’t care before now it bothers you. Before when you get up in the morning, all you do is eat breakfast, take a shower, brush, change and then off you go to work. Now you have to devote a time for God in the morning. Which means getting up earlier. And nobody wants to get up earlier.
Your heart has change. The things that you don’t care start bothering you now. You stop cussing. You don’t go out partying anymore. You stop lusting at that lady next door. Everything is brand new. You feel invincible with that newly found conviction. People start noticing and look at you weird. So weird, that people start distancing themselves from you and to make it even worse your own family start persecuting you. You didn’t get the promotion because everybody thinks you’re a bigot. Your phone start ringing, a call from your significant other telling you that she found someone else. That you don’t fit in her lifestyle anymore.
Pressure start building up, you become overwhelmed and start to ask God why? You’re mind is full of doubts. Contemplating if you should continue on. You have lose so much, there’s a lot at stake. Is it worth it? You feel drained and abandoned. And with all your might you just broke down in tears. You remember about what the Pastor said that things will get better, that he will bless you with such and such. Then a turn for the worse, you went back to your old self. Now you don’t have to worry about anything. You’re free at last. Or so you thought.
It is heartbreaking when a believer backslides. Is there hope? It is nothing new or uncommon. It happened to myself. One way or another we have steered away from our faith. I’ll be doing a follow-up post on this one and share with you my own personal experience on how to avoid the pit falls and getting your faith back.
Lately I’ve been noticing the way I pray. Most of the things I’ve been praying are things that everyone wanted. A better job, higher pay, better living standards. I pray about it hardly that I can’t help but notice that what if I pray like this for someone who is lost. I said to myself how selfish I am. That I am so blinded by the cares of this world. “I must have this, I must have that.” Blinded by all the distraction, from social media to every entertainment that bombards us where ever we go and the busyness of our careers. The smart phone that always quietly screaming at you saying, “Hey, check me it’s been five minutes since you last held me that’s too long, you don’t want to miss what’s going on.”
For every situation I encounter in life. I always like to compare it during the time of the Apostles or the New Testament believers. How would they react if they’re in my situation right now. What would happen if I pray so hard, so passionately for those who are lost just like the way I ask God whenever I need something. Could you imagine that? You’ll probably say, “Hey, prayers don’t work.” Let me tell you this, back when I was in High School I would pray for my whole class for their salvation. Sometimes I would even name them individually in my prayer. Fast forward today, I found a couple of them on Facebook. Guess, what? Both of this individuals have their own ministry. I can’t believe it myself.
Once you’ve become a Bible believing Christian, it doesn’t stop there. We are commanded by Christ himself to make disciples and preach the gospel to every corner of the world, which is the great commission. Step back a bit and let’s re focus on what our mission is in this world – the preaching of the gospel. Remember when you look at someone, that individual would spend eternity somewhere. I don’t have to mention those two places, you already know.
Marriage is one of the major events that we go through in this life. It could turn out in bliss or total disaster. I don’t consider myself an expert but having been married for fourteen years, I’d like to share some of the things that I’ve learned. ‘Hoping that it’ll help you along the way. You probably find this harsh but hey, so is life. Marriage is not a laughing matter or a joke.
This doesn’t have anything to do with marriage itself. Rather leading to it. Show your true attitude. Do not try to impress each other, being careful not to offend each others feelings. Be honest and be blunt. Marriage is all about trust. If you like to fart, fart don’t hide it. Just reveal the true you. Don’t think that he or she would be turned off. Don’t do it on your first date though. See, what happens if you let those barriers go down after your marriage. You both will be asking what happened and realize that everything change once you got married. Let it out . Don’t be afraid. If you drool while sleeping let her see it. If you can’t control your fart let him hear it. It is better to find out the things that annoys you while you’re dating than later on after your marriage.
Don’t Marry for Love Alone
There’s a saying “Love is Blind,”. Yes, indeed love can blind you that you overlook the other important things. Remember you are going to be with this individual for the rest of your life(‘hope so). Love alone cannot put food on the table. Make sure you’re both financially stable and responsible. Sooner or later, you’re going to have children. And having children is costly. Marry someone that’ll be there to help you and not totally depend on you or just let you do everything.
Character Before Appearance
Again, you’ll be with this individual 24/7. It’s not only about sex. Physical appearance wears out eventually as you age. Character does not. Be with someone who you have something in common with. Otherwise you’ll end up contradicting each other all the time. Marry someone who shares the same believes and faith – I cannot stress this enough especially if you are a believer in Christ.
Good luck out there. Have fun, and if you do get hurt. It’s fine, its called life. Let time take its course and heal up. You’ll be ready again for this race called life. The goal is not to win but to finish it.