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Let Man Be Man and Woman be Woman

Family is the basic cell of a healthy society. You want to destroy a country without actually waging a physical war, simple, destroy the family. No father to look up to, no mother to guide the home. No fear , no moral compass. Can not decipher what is right and wrong. No one to hold accountable to but only themselves. Majority of the empires fell and crumbled not because they were militarily defeated but because of moral bankruptcy.

And what better way to achieve this than to blurred the lines of what a man is and what a woman is. I probably be called a bigot or a sexist for writing this. I’ll write it anyway to show to you how you’ve been robbed of your innocence and purity. Blinded by this world. If you just take a step back and be the observer. Study every generation. Watch the classic movies and old tv shows and compare it today. Ask yourself how did we get in to this mess?

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They are characteristics that makes a woman for what she is, the same thing goes with man. They are made for each other, help each other, complement each other and eventually complete each other, not to outdo and use and abuse each other. Society always dictate through the media and learning institutes that women must be and surpass men. That they can do better than men. In reality they are just things that women can’t do that men can do and vice versa. That’s what make them unique to each other. Not some  kind of deficiency.

They’re is nothing more joyful than having a family. Having children and watch them grow. When I first held my daughter in my arms the day she was born, I would describe it this way, “It’s hundred times better than falling in love with the woman of your dreams.” You have achieve your career goals and all the material things you wanted. Everyday we’re getting old and clock is ticking. For all those singles out there I didn’t say this to taunt you but to encourage you. It is for those who have deferred time and time again to pursue the cares of this world. How much is enough and when is enough. Sooner or later you’ll grow old. Death will come eventually. On your bed you remember the words again empowerment and progressive. “To who you ask, to myself or to the god of this world.” You realize you’ve been robbed all along.

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Life Is Short

The day before Christmas eve, I found my self browsing through antique and thrift stores. Looking for anything that is of old, anything from the 18th to 19th century. To the 50’s until the 80’s. As the people I know from the older generation start dying one after the other. It dawns on me that sooner or later it’ll be my turn soon. I remember when I was younger, to just take my time. I had this sense of eternity and invincibility. Now that I’ll be turning 40, that isn’t the case. Those days were seem like yesterday. I found myself clamoring for the old things that I wish I could bring them back.

I had this sense of rejection of the technology we use today. Life was much simpler then. I start watching classic movies from the 50’s. I watched the 80’s music videos over and over to relieved all those good memories. Women were so beautiful in that time. Very classy and tactful. You could actually tell the difference between a man and woman. They were very pretty and the dress, don’t even start me on that. Sometimes I think I could travel back in time and live through their time. Not so today. Almost everyone is covered with tattoos or piercings. Just like what my brother told me,”You’re getting old indeed.”

Nowadays, I am always grasping for time. I guess you could say it’s one of the perks of being married and having a child. “Be careful what you wish for,” how many times I’ve heard that. I see many young people where I see myself in them during my younger years. The same advice I’m giving to them were the same advice that was given to me when I was at their age. I didn’t understand it then, now I’m living it.

Cherish the moments you have with your family and friends, people that’s always been there for you even though they’re not there with you. Don’t spend too much time on your phone or playing video games. Heck, don’t spend time at all with both of them. Because once a memory is gone it’s gone for good you can’t bring it back.

In spite all this observations, I don’t see the arrogance of mankind ceasing. But quite the opposite. Ever been proud and boastful. Having a sense of eternity and invincibility. Nothing is new under the sun, like the book of Ecclesiastes says.

In summary I leave you this verses:

“For the fate of the sons of man and the fate of the beasts is the same. As one dies so does the other; indeed, they all have the same breath and there is no advantage for man over beast, for all is vanity. All go to the same place. All came from dust and all return to dust.” (Ecc.3:19-20 NASB)

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” (Ecc.12:13 KJV)

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Backslide

They are numbers of reasons why a believer backslides. Some they miss their old ways. Some couldn’t handle the pressure of being set apart from the crowd. Of being make fun of, ridiculed and the isolation not only from your peers but from you friends, and worst of them all from your own family.

The most common of it all is the promise that everything will be better, once you become a believer in Christ. People get disillusioned, then discouraged and eventually abandon their faith. The truth is your problems will be magnified ten to twenty times. You’ll feel persecuted from every side. The things that you didn’t care before now it bothers you. Before when you get up in the morning, all you do is eat breakfast, take a shower, brush, change and then off you go to work. Now you have to devote a time for God in the morning. Which means getting up earlier. And nobody wants to get up earlier.

Your heart has change. The things that you don’t care start bothering you now. You stop cussing. You don’t go out partying anymore. You stop lusting at that lady next door. Everything is brand new. You feel invincible with that newly found conviction. People start noticing and look at you weird. So weird, that people start distancing themselves from you and to make it even worse your own family start persecuting you. You didn’t get the promotion because everybody thinks you’re a bigot. Your phone start ringing, a call from your significant other telling you that she found someone else. That you don’t fit in her lifestyle anymore.

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Pressure start building up, you become overwhelmed and start to ask God why? You’re mind is full of doubts. Contemplating if you should continue on. You have lose so much, there’s a lot at stake. Is it worth it? You feel drained and abandoned. And with all your might you just broke down in tears. You remember about what the Pastor said that things will get better, that he will bless you with such and such. Then a turn for the worse, you went back to your old self. Now you don’t have to worry about anything. You’re free at last. Or so you thought.

It is heartbreaking when a believer backslides. Is there hope? It is nothing new or uncommon. It happened to myself. One way or another we have steered away from our faith. I’ll be doing a follow-up post on this one and share with you my own personal experience on how to avoid the pit falls and getting your faith back.

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Tying the Knot

Marriage is one of the major events that we go through in this life. It could turn out in bliss or total disaster. I don’t consider myself an expert but having been married for fourteen years, I’d like to share some of the things that I’ve learned. ‘Hoping that it’ll help you along the way. You probably find this harsh but hey, so is life. Marriage is not a laughing matter or a joke.

Be Yourself

This doesn’t have anything to do with marriage itself. Rather leading to it. Show your true attitude. Do not try to impress each other, being careful not to offend each others feelings. Be honest and be blunt. Marriage is all about trust. If you like to fart, fart don’t hide it. Just reveal the true you. Don’t think that he or she would be turned off. Don’t do it on your first date though. See, what happens if you let those barriers go down after your marriage. You both will be asking what happened and realize that everything change once you got married. Let it out . Don’t be afraid. If you drool while sleeping let her see it. If you can’t control your fart let him hear it. It is better to find out the things that annoys you while you’re dating than later on after your marriage.

Don’t Marry for Love Alone

There’s a saying “Love is Blind,”. Yes, indeed love can blind you that you overlook the other important things. Remember you are going to be with this individual for the rest of your life(‘hope so). Love alone cannot put food on the table. Make sure you’re both financially stable and responsible. Sooner or later, you’re going to have children. And having children is costly. Marry someone that’ll be there to help you and not totally depend on you or just let you do everything.

Character Before Appearance

Again, you’ll be with this individual 24/7. It’s not only about sex. Physical appearance wears out eventually as you age. Character does not. Be with someone who you have something in common with. Otherwise you’ll end up contradicting each other all the time. Marry someone who shares the same believes and faith – I cannot stress this enough especially if you are a believer in Christ.

Good luck out there. Have fun, and if you do get hurt. It’s fine, its called life. Let time take its course and heal up. You’ll be ready again for this race called life. The goal is not to win but to finish it.

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God is Love

As I drove on the way to work. I can not help and fathom how our society is plunging into darkness. What use to be bad is now good. What use to be unnatural is now natural. When is society going to wake up and see the fruits of its wickedness. Families are being torn apart. When families are destroyed, society is too. Because the family is the basic cell of a society.

As I think of this, if I am God I don’t think I have all the patience and endurance He have. Seeing how people constantly mocked me and reject me. I would pour out my wrath instantly. So what’s the main quality that make God, God. Is it because he is all-knowing. Is it because he’s always in control. Is it because he created you and I, the whole world and everything in it. Is it because he has the power to life and death, that at this very moment I could’ve drop dead if he says so.

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Remember God sees everything. Both good and bad. Pleasant and unpleasant. Being blamed for everything, even though not a single word you’ve told them to do weren’t being followed. And yet they have the audacity to blame you. Forgetting even that the one they’re speaking to is the very One who created them. Having power over their life, body and soul. Imagine yourself in His shoes. Your heart and soul would be torn apart, and I bet that you won’t be able to contain yourself to take action. To exact judgement and punishment.

In spite all this God sent His one and only son Jesus Christ to die for our sins. Take a moment and close your eyes and imagine how he felt when he made that decision. Knowing that they would still reject Him and His Son until this day.

So what makes Him God? His unconditional love for us. No other individual in the world has that kind of love. Loving someone who won’t love you back. Now that is what I call true love to which there’s no such law.(Galatians 5:22-23).

So remember this next time you put the blame on God. I don’t know who you are and what your situation is. He is waiting for you, all you need to do is read His words through the bible. Repent while there is still time. Don’t wait until it’s too late. Don’t believe the lie that God doesn’t care or that He doesn’t exist because you’re still sinning and enjoying it. And God wouldn’t do a single thing about it.

The truth is He is giving you a chance to change and to repent. To come back to Him.Do not wait. Do not postpone. Life is too short and eternity is too long.